FYI Central

Somewhere is a father that would like nothing more than to say, “your mom and I didn’t see eye to eye, or I would’ve been there”.

Somewhere is a mother that wants to explain, why she thought adoption was best for her baby.

Somewhere is a young adult, wondering how can a parent not care about me? And when it’s all over neither know the truth.

I am pretty sure every parent thinks about their children even if they are not part of their kids life. Causing millions to grow up believing, a parent didn’t loved them.

It’s human nature to avoid conflict. Sometimes reasoning or circumstance breaks the bonds of communication and parenthood. Jealousy, shame, incarceration, location, addiction, ego or just plain hatred for one’s ex spouse. These are all excuses that they are still the cause not to be taken personally by the children of divorce.

I can only imagine the grief of wanting to tell my son or daughter, “I thought about you every single day of my life” but couldn’t. And the desire to explain and apologize for my actions, or lack of them. It may not be what the kid needs, but it might be what I would needs to say before crossing over.

I think a lot of people in this world, that have heart wrenching feelings they wished they could express. But for one reason or another they cannot say it. Perhaps the person you want to talk to is married and you are not welcome. Or a brother or sister unsettled argument. Maybe you committed a crime, that you feel guilty about and would like to make things right. These are things you can do with after life messages from regret to inform. It’s called bringing closure to ones life, of taking care of unfinished business.

Personally, I would like to tell certain people how much I loved them. And yes, some are married, and no I do not contact them. That’s because I love them I leave them alone.

• Do you have any kids you have not talked to lately?
• Have any family or friends been distant lately or might need your guidance?
• Do you have any old girlfriends or boyfriends, to say goodbye to?
• Maybe you would just like to say, the party is over for me, enjoy the rest of your life, and I’ll see you at the next gathering.

Like the mother and father mentioned above, there are children and grandchildren that will never know the good person you were. Unless you take this opportunity to tell your side of the story.
Is there anything you would like to say, that would be a burden off your shoulders but you can’t say it?
Apologies and confessions are sometimes better left unsaid, but sometimes it’s better they are said to help everyone, move on.

The catch to this is, you have to do it while you are alive. Not so hard to understand, is it? You say anything and add an email address. You’ll help them over the greif of losing you, that is if they liked you in the firstplace. If not just say goodbye to your friends with style.